What Is Your Selling Point?

What makes me different from others? 

I often asked myself. I could not figure the right answer. What I thought I am are often compared with others. "You said you are a patient person, a quick learner and have no problem talking to strangers. Well, I am as well, how are you different from me?" they would shoot right back at me and instantly, I am out of words.

It had me thinking, a lot. What is it in me that others do not have? What makes me special? Who am I? What had I achieved that others did not?

There are many things that I could do so do others but some they could even do things I could not. Being an overthinker and an indecisive person, I realized that I am not competing with others but myself. I had gone through much thinking and made my decision.

My selling point would be, I can capture people's attention by sharing my experiences and thoughts with them. I am a great listener too, whereby people come to me when they needed an ear. I am a person who hopes to inspire others with my words that they never give up in their life. 

They say people with much problems give the best advice, and I agree with that.

The Cruise Part I

Going to camps are fun times that I would participate even though no friends would join with me. I went through various leadership and religious camps that I had lost count. Each of it had taught me about how easy and difficult it is in life but the cruise had stuck in my head and I doubt the memory of it would fade, at all. 3 days 2 nights of pre-departure camp and 10 days onboard. I never imagined cruises are all fun.

It all happened when I did not concentrate on my mother's words. She asked me if I would want to try out a 14 days camp that involved sailboat. Hell yeah, I agreed without thinking further (as I always look forward to joining camps), sign myself up without reading carefully the registration form and I am off to Lumut, Perak.

Upon arriving, 16 of us (other participants including my younger brother) aboard a double-decker bus with full blast air conditioner. The whole bus was just for us, we even get to pick where we wanted to sit, running around on the bus playing chase are not an issue. Excitement filled me and it got me picturing the cruise, the food, the sea breeze and many others that you might think of. We stopped by Taiping youth centre to pick up the remaining participants, making a total of 24 participants, 18 male and 6 female teenagers then off we went to our destination, where our pre-departure camp held.

When my right foot stepped on the muddy ground, I am speechless. So speechless that I had to throw away my imagination towards this camp. Two shipping containers appear to be right under a roof where it covers a space enough to fit at least 40 people, with the sound of the river flowing at East. Toilets were located near the river beside the river, behind a house that used solely for cooking. I calmed myself, convinced that it would be a wonderful camp but at that split moment, I was shouted for daydreaming. I was summoned to eat together with people who seem like they had anger management issues and of course, with other participants. 

The food was manageable. It was superb spicy mee hoon with fried fish ala Malay style. It took me awhile as I am not a fan of spiciness. Before I finished my meal, I was summoned to the space which then called hall A, and of course, by summoned, meant being shouted. 

An icebreaking session was conducted by the officer. Pardon me, I only could recall their faces. Coolest icebreaking session ever as all of us, stand in a circle, shout out our name, where we are from and how old are we just once, then we have to memorize the others details. Those who unable to remember the other 23 members names would have to do 1 push up per person. I did a hundred at least and yes, right after my meal. "Stay contented, it could have been worse," I told myself. Maybe the fun part comes later, convincing myself while looking at other participants making fun and laughing at each other's mistakes, doing many push-ups. Not a great session I would say but at least it got us all memorizing the names of each and every participant including the officer's name that I have long forgotten.

Next, was grouping session and shoving the leftovers from lunch into a full belly. Dead serious. The reason why they insist us to finish our food is that the cruise apparently might not have sufficient food for each and everyone as it is a 10 days voyage. Feeling stuffed, the leftover spicy mee hoon were then shoved into our mouth by a shared spoon (yes, it is dreadful to have that) with other participants. Yuck is all I could think off but we were observed by the officers, and somewhat I could tell that I would be in trouble if I do not consume that remaining food.

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To be continue.

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Synonym96

13 November 2018

Confronting people

When a problem occurs between you and others,
would you prefer to run a way,
or to face them,
noting the problem that occurs between you and them.

To lead a team as a deputy director,
it is not easy to satisfy everyone.
Problem occurs between people.
Some due to work not done in time,
Some due to work is imperfect,
Some due to attitude.

We had a small sharing session within department,
we want them to clear the barriers among themselves.
The session seems to end well,
but does it?
It depends.
The outcome could be seen by this upcoming months.
Whether it is good or bad.
I hope it turns out to be good,
or else the session would be a waste of time.

People always think themselves are right
and others are wrong.
Things sometimes does not work that way,
people could not see faults in themselves,
others does.
It is hard to accept criticisms but these are the words
that helps us grow.

Some are just personal grudge,
which cannot be change.
But what to do?
Life sometimes could be contradicting too.

When you know you should stop, but you don't want to

Is it due to the cravings of someone's presents in your life or is it you being ignorance?
Would you do something that hurts you even you love it?
Would you make decisions, do you use your brain or your heart?
Can everything just stop when you said stop?
Will someone tell you that you are stupid when you did something really stupid?
Can someone be friend and enemy at the same time?
Is life complicated or is it us that are making life complicated?
Is it okay to leave everything behind and start over new?
Can we be dead for awhile?
Apart of me wants to survive, apart doesn't.
Whats the point of holding on and yet unable to let go?

The paradoxical person

Hey, been busy nowadays with assignments and stuff. Have not been able to update here but here I am now, having the motivation to write again.

Recently I have been leading two assignments groups whereby both assignments required us to do role play. I found myself being contradict in my ideas and also in deciding the suggested ideas from my group mates.

I personally think that paradoxical person are creative people and they pursue perfection in things or in their work. Well, I am not as such as my attitude itself is contradicting with each other. Sometimes people perceive me as someone who is unpredictable. Sometimes I am easy to be predicted. I am referring on simple things. A simple example which is having meals, whether to have meals with friends or not to. I like having meals with friends and I like to have meals alone too. Hence I always have to come up with a decision. Even when the decision is set, I might change my mind when I think the other idea is better than the initial ones.

Paradox really helps in coming up with numerous ideas, as one idea improvised from the other. But it is really a burden when it comes to decision making. I want to be someone who is firm in the decisions I made but every time I would have fail as I always think that the grass is greener on the other side.

I bet most of us have slight issue with paradox but in my opinion, those who counters it and focus on their goals and aim, are those who are successful in what they do.

I do not plan to change myself as I somewhat would turn the plan down anyways, I will just go with the flow and continue living.

Thanks for reading my rant.
Just want to write for no reason.

Synonym96

Friend

Good day, it has been very busy for me to update my blog but here I am now.

Have your day been great so far?
Do not give up or be sad if it is not. Always believe that it will all goes well.

Recently I received a question of what is a friend from a friend that I used to be close with but there are some issues with her caused me to avoid her.

What is a friend to you? Someone that shares the same dream as you? Someone that laughs with you?Someone that could back you up when you are in trouble? Someone that criticize you? Someone that humiliates you as a joke?

To me, friends are people that appear in our life and go away after a period of time. Some friends are destined to be Hi and Bye kind of friends. Some friends would be the ones that worth your time and your sacrifices. I think that friendship are like relationship, it involves two way communication. Without the right communication, the friendship would shatter. Acceptance is the key. Give and take.

Probably the Hi and Bye kind of friends are supposed to be called acquaintance but the number of times you met this person, somehow you cannot take them as acquaintance. Probably you take someone as a friend but he or she does not take it that way. Yes, it is really sad to have that kind of feeling but I think that probably we should take this opportunity to find out why he or she does not take us as friend when we took him or her as one. This might help to improve the bond, not to mention, ourselves.

People change. We cannot expect someone to be the same as the first day we met them. It depends if you can accept your friend's changes. If you cannot, try telling him or her, or change your perceptive. If both ways does not work, Hi and Bye friend is always an option.

Friends does not have to stick together always to be friends. I would consider someone whom I did not talk to for 4 or 5 years a friend. It is because the memories with them, is truly precious. Not to say that present is not, but sometimes things just don't go in our way.

I guess that is all up till today, I would update my blog as much as I could. Thank you for reading.
Before you go, try to have some thoughts on these question, something to think about.

What is your opinion on the word friend?
Who is your friends?
Who is your real friends?
What is real friends to you?
Would your friends agree to lend you money as much as 5k when you are in trouble?
Would your friends talk bad behind you?
Would you friends talk bad in your face, pointing your weakness to you?
Would your friends share their secrets with you?
Would your friends come out in the middle of the night just to listen to your stories?

Hope you know who are your friends.
These are my opinions, there are no rights or wrong in the content.
Hope you like my posts.

19/6/2017
synonym96

Life is a lesson

Life indeed is a lesson,
We fall, we need to learn to stand back up.
Nothing could guarantee that we would not fall again,
Only you could choose,
Whether to stand up,
Embrace the next challenges coming right at you,
Or, continue to stay put
In your very own comfort zone.

While pain, sadness and regrets,
There would not be gain, happiness and experience.
It is okay to have these negativity in us,
Do not keep it for to long,
Change it, accept it, turn it into
Hope, Faith and Glory.

Nothing could help us,
If we do not even want to help ourselves.
Take the leap,
Be brave,
Be confident,
Be enthusiastic,
Be nice,
As life,
Is full of surprises.

Synonym96
10 May 2017

Love, From You Both.

Hey there!

Doing good?

Fantastic! Hope you are having great time in your life!

What is love?

To me, love comes in many forms. Love from parents, siblings, partner, colleague, friends, strangers and even other beings.

Let's talk about parental love.

I don't know what kind of parental love you are having but let me share about mine.

Dad works alone as a mechanic. Working alone as a mechanic is not a simple task. Imagine carrying the heavy gear box with just some help of leverage, changing tires, thinking of solution to solve circuit problems and worse of all, if he has an accident (touch wood) it would take sometime for us to discover.

He would wake up and prepare breakfast for us. Almost every morning unless I woke up, he would ask me to do instead, which is also a rare occasion.

Just by preparing breakfast, he constantly did it since I was 7 years old. It has been 13 years yet he still preparing breakfast for us.

Before I wake up, breakfast is ready to serve. Even though it is just spread bread, I am always grateful to have my dad. I could say it is rare to see a father preparing breakfast before the sun even rise,

Mom on the other hand, gave up her career to full time taking care of us 3 kids. She could have hold a high salary job but instead she chose this path. She graduated in University Malaya, Malaysia's famous government university and she is a very smart lady.

When I was a teen, I always wondered why she chose this path, why she would sacrifice her career? If she did not chose this path we would have a very porch life and could travel around the world. I could have get whatever I wanted in life.

Sometimes she would say that she should go out to work but no one would want to hire her because of her age. Plus, she is the one who settles dad's company account. She did not take account during her study life. She learn from her friend, borrowed accounting book from her friend and studied it. That's how she picked up her accounting skills.

Dad has moody temper. Maybe because he is stress working alone and customers kept coming. 

Mom, I would say she lectures a lot. She could repeat things again, again and again. She also could not really take my dad's temper vice versa on dad for he lectures. Things are kept repeating though, can't blame her.

Well, nobody is perfect. Same goes to me. I need them. There is still many things in life that I still need their support. As time pass, I could see the wrinkles in them are growing, white hairs sprouting rapidly. Deep down, I am really afraid to lose them, but I am still hurting them everyday. I tried to behave as a child that they would wish for, I just unable to.

I feel that the more we love someone, the more we take advantage on them, the more we hurt them.

Every time my mom lectures me, I would feel annoyed. Either I kept quite or I tried to explain myself which clearly not effective, end up keeping quiet is the best way to stop her lectures. To be honest, her 95% of her lectures are right. It is just that I would not accept it.

She feels that the distance between us so close yet so far. I told her it is the generation gap. It hurts to see her feeling down. Her cries breaks me apart. Despite all these hurting that I cause to her, she never said that " I am regret to give birth to you."

Me on the other hand, always ask myself, why am I given birth into this family? I told myself I don't feel love. The truth is I do feel their love. They are emitting love in their way, not the way I wanted to receive, that's why some part of me refuse to accept their love.

My dad love us but never told us. He show us in a different way instead. I do remember when I was kid, they would beat me up if I did something that is not right, but at night, my dad would come to me, applying the Chinese medicine on the bruises. He would say sorry to me too for hitting me too hard.

Dad never want to cry in front of us. He kept his suffering to himself. I caught him crying once, he tried to hide his face and ask me go to sleep.

Mom always told me " You used to hug me every night and wish me good night, nowadays you didn't." Every time she says that, I would do what she wanted, then did not practice it. Mom would tell me that she love me, to enjoy my day, to drive safe, to come home have dinner, and many more.

Dad don't really says much. I don't recall when was the last "I love you" from dad. I also don't recall when was the last time I said that to my dad. "Wai, drive carefully." is already at his limit, but it was heart warming enough.

I would want to say "I love you dad" but somehow, I just can't. I don't even know why I could not do it.

What kind of experience that you had with your parents?

Are you grateful to have them in your life?

Do they have you backed up when you are in trouble?

Do you feel their love?

Do share with me!

Enjoy this moments with them! Happy, Sad, Anger are the emotions that bring us closer as a family.

Cheers,
Synonym96

Cold Morning

Good Morning!

Well it is 7:54 A.m here and the sun are yet to rise.

How are you doing? I really hope you do well in whatever you are doing!

This morning were unlike the others that I had.

I was awaken by the sound of my brother's alarm (we sleeps together in a double-decker bed).

I did not bother to look at the time, I know it is early 6.

I turn off the alarm and intent to continue my sleep until I heard my dad footsteps from the other room across my room. Great, I won't get to sleep.

As I have guessed, my dad asked me to send my brother to school. Well, to be honest, I am annoyed by the last minute request, but I did not protest. 

I went to the hall and prepared breakfast. My brother woke up and we had bread spread with butter and Kaya.

As we head out the house, we heard raindrops hitting only our awning. 

As time pass, the rain were pouring like crazy from above. I drove as slow as possible because I could not even see clearly. 

Reached my brother's school, okay, how should I send him there without getting wet? I thought myself.

Umbrella did not seem to be working perfectly, when I opened the car's door, the rain just kept coming into the car before I could even open up my umbrella.

Umbrella opened, went down. Half soaked even with the help of umbrella.

Got my brother down then went back into my car.

Okay, job done. Time to go to work.

Not sure whether is the weather or is just me still sleepy. I ended up taking a route which is twice the journey to my workplace.

But lucky enough, rain had slowed down and I am almost dry. Can't stop shivering in wet during the cold weather.

I bet you too have different mornings like mine, do share with me!

I love to listen/ read stories from others! I really do!

Hope a bad morning does not spoil the mood of your entire day!

Cheers,

Synonym96

Food Here That I love

Hey Hey Hey! 

Welcome! Glad to have the privilege for you to read my post!

Hope you are enjoying your day as I do!

Dear readers,

You might or might not know, that 16 of September is Malaysia Day (which is tomorrow)! It is the day which held to commemorate the establishment of the Malaysian federation on the same date in 1963. It marked the joining together of Malaya, North Borneo and Sarawak to be Malaysia.

Well, I am not going to explain the history of Malaysia, but I am going to tell you my personal experience as a Malaysian citizen. 

*Just to clarify that what I am going to tell you, are solely based on my experiences and what I remember.*

First and foremost, the different races that live harmony together in a country. The three most populated races are the Malays, Chinese and Indians.

I am a Malaysian Chinese, but my friends are not only Chinese people. They are also Malay and Indian people.

We share different cultures together in this very land. By sharing, I am talking about festivals, food, languages, and many more others.

Today I am going to start with food ( like who does not love food?), because there are different culture here, therefore, there are different type of food coming from different races.

Roti Canai,  is my current love in Malaysian cuisine. Cheap (cost only RM 1) and delicious comes with curry, dhall and sambal. It is a perfect meal, but I would call it snack as one is never enough to fill my stomach. 

Roti Canai best paired up with Teh Tarik, Teh means tea while Tarik means pull in Bahasa Malaysia. Teh tarik is basically a black tea mixed with condensed milk and then literally pulled by pouring from one cup to another cup back and forth to create the smooth texture of the delightful tea.

Besides Roti Canai, Nasi Lemak also is one of the spicy yet tempting for the locals. It comes with rice, sambal, slices of cucumber, fried anchovies and peanuts. It only cost RM 2.50 and it is easy to grab in the morning for breakfast! Nasi lemak is mouthwatering by just looking at it! Trust me, I tried taking Nasi Lemak everyday for a week and did not get bored of it!

Char Kuey Teow too, is one of the food I would recommend you to try. If you have tried Roti Canai and Nasi Lemak, taking Char Kuey Teow is a mission complete kind of thing as you took the three dish originated from the three main races in Malaysia.

Personally I like consuming my Char Kuey Teow dry instead of wet. Dry as it it is not watery vice versa. Char Kuey Teow is a savory dish that also served well with sambal. You are unable to see the sambal as the cook would fry it together with the dish itself. Char Kuey Teow usually cost around RM 5.50 to RM 7 depending the area of the town.

Well, this is just tip of the ice berg. Malaysia is like the heaven of food! 

Nasi Dagang, Chapati, Pan Mee, Ayam Penyit, Tosai, Chee Cheong Fun and many more!

What are you waiting for if you are genuine food lover?

Drop by Malaysia one day, and feel what I feel is to be like staying in Malaysia!

Food everywhere!

Hope you get hold of local cuisine in Malaysia and how tasteful it is!
Share your experience with me about food in Malaysia! What is the food that you love most here?

Enjoy your meals!

Cheers,
Synonym96